tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3329297268322978087.post8532805594941221864..comments2023-07-15T04:11:17.608-04:00Comments on Life Through Endurance...: THE RACE: The Five Stages of Grief and GoalsLife Through Endurancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00591646203586889209noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3329297268322978087.post-38517107657880015632012-08-09T21:52:15.711-04:002012-08-09T21:52:15.711-04:00Thanks for all the comments!
TWINS RUN: I'm...Thanks for all the comments! <br />TWINS RUN: I'm SO sorry to hear about your grandmother. My heart goes out to you and your family. Grandparents hold such a special place in our hearts. Carry on her spirit by teaching others the lessons she taught you. <br /><br />TMFW - you ARE my surrogate parent! And I love the wild river analogy. I definitely don't think that the DABDA stages actually go in any particular order & sometimes they're all at once! <br /><br />JEN - it's great to "see" you as always. I look forward to more of our conversations! <br /><br />STEPHANIE I think it's normal and justified to go through the grief stages with an injury like that. It's a loss, a change, a difficult event. I've experienced the same thing with my calf pull and now my recent knee injury. So own that cycle!! <br /><br />XOXO everyone!Life Through Endurancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00591646203586889209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3329297268322978087.post-74026206047842737902012-08-03T10:45:57.780-04:002012-08-03T10:45:57.780-04:00You made me smile today. Let me know if you're...You made me smile today. Let me know if you're ever interested in doing lunch together w/ A.<br /><br />The grief cycle hit me unexpectedly when I tore my ACL a decade ago. I mean, I knew that the cycle existed and had experienced it in other situations, but there I was a day or two post-busted ACL refusing to believe it was ruptured (even though the first words out of my mouth when it happened were, "Oh $hit, that was my ACL"). And then, somewhere in there, "Why didn't I sub out of the soccer game??! I was tired, anyway!" And then prolonging the visit to the doctor because then I wouldn't have confirmation of an ACL rupture. To pre-MRI, "MRI, if you come back clean, I'll never play a contact sport ever again!" And then back to, "Why did I play that soccer game??! I was so stupid!" And off to, "I'm just going to sit here, eat bon bons between tears, and watch the Tour de France while everyone else is off hiking." Finally, "Okay. I'm having the reconstruction surgery. I'm going to come back stronger."<br /><br />And that was just an ACL tear.Stephaniehttp://www.usuallystephanie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3329297268322978087.post-41193889907292918982012-07-30T13:44:25.436-04:002012-07-30T13:44:25.436-04:00I liked how you related the 5 stages to goal setti...I liked how you related the 5 stages to goal setting as well. I can definately relate to that and to the stages of grief. I have dealt with both.<br /><br />Welcome back to your blog. I've missed your posts and have been keeping you in my thoughts.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16928801357264791430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3329297268322978087.post-25171990299321035382012-07-29T12:54:46.013-04:002012-07-29T12:54:46.013-04:00Excellent post today. A therapist friend told me ...Excellent post today. A therapist friend told me once that "grief is complicated." And her problem with the Kubler-Ross sequence is that you may do the stages in no particular order and you may do them over again. She prefers to think of grief as a wild river that changes its course, leaves its banks or slows down after hitting the rocks. Another thing that I learned was that things are rarely the way you thought they would be going into it. I prepared myself financially for being able to retire at a young age. I wasn't-being a guy- prepared for it emotionally. While I certainly do not equate retirement to the loss of a parent or loved one it is a loss of a person you used to be and will never be again. And that's heavy. I won't lie. It was a tough adjustment at first especially coming right after the death of one of my best friends. As my friend said "it was complicated." And now it's pretty cool. I have been presented with opportunities that I would not otherwise have been given. I am at peace with a slower pace now when it drove me crazy at first. I don't know what the future holds but I'm not worried or anxious. Worst comes to worst, I'll be a lawyer again. Even still, every now and again something hits me out of the blue. Boom! The memory bank starts charging interest. And then it passes. I wouldn't be surprised if you don't experience much the same. It's a process. And it will take its own time. You will be OK.tmfwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10964675546572106758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3329297268322978087.post-60138333482248465232012-07-29T12:52:10.756-04:002012-07-29T12:52:10.756-04:00We are so very sorry for your loss. We thank you f...We are so very sorry for your loss. We thank you for sharing your story. Our grandmother died unexpectedly on July 16 and we are still in the depths of intense grief. Our only solace is running.TWINS RUN in our familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com